*DISCLAIMER: We are NOT Licensed Marriage & Family Therapists, nor are we practicing Professional Counselors. These opinions are strictly from our personal experience, and serve as a testament to the benefits of practicing principles found in Love & Respect.
Hi everyone, this is Greg, Megan’s husband. It’s a pleasure and an honor to be collaborating with Megan on this series and presenting a man’s perspective on a subject dominated by female voices. To avoid confusion, and in keeping with the theme of this blog series, my direct input will be in blue while Megan’s will be in pink.
This first post focuses on a woman’s need to be loved. Tomorrow, we will draw attention to a man’s need to be respected.
Women need love like they need air to breathe. This is not puppy love or beginning-of-the-relationship love, but unconditional love. This kind of love, agape, is commanded by God in Ephesians 5:33, and it’s commanded to the husband only.
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Why is this command given to the husband only (and several times, no less, within the chapter)? Because it’s not within a man’s nature to love unconditionally. A woman has the natural, innate ability to love. God designed her to love- it pours out of her effortlessly. This does not mean that a man is incapable of loving his wife, but this is a prescription from God for the BEST WAY to love your wife and provide the most meaning for her as the husband!
I want to talk to the husbands for just a moment. To a wife, love is shown in several ways: (1) close contact: communicate face-to-face, give her your undivided attention; (2) when in conversation, validate her opinion: don’t be afraid to ask “do you need a solution or a listening ear?”; (3) openness: trust her with your emotions and weaknesses- she will honor you for it; and (4) loyalty: treasure her above all others- don’t let your eyes wander; make time for her (remember you married her, not your hobbies or your job).
When a husband loves his wife in the way that meets her greatest need, it will resonate deep within her and she will respond sexually. It will take some time- and effort. Remember, this does not come naturally for a man. With time, and grace, you will begin to see a transformation occur within your relationship.
Don’t forget to check in with us tomorrow for a look at your husband’s greatest need. Be sure to subscribe to this blog (located on the sidebar) so that you won’t miss out on the discussion.
Ladies, what do you think? Is Greg correct in stating that a woman’s greatest need is to be loved? Leave a comment and lets discuss.